Fresh Comment On Authentic Self With Inspiration From My Son’s Balancing
By Amy Choi, Hong Kong, December 27, 2016
Many people ask Amy Choi about the meaning of “authentic self”. In plain language, “authentic self” is the frank self that oneself cannot avoid. This self, which exists on the cross section of different time and space, is honestly revealed by the experience at the present moment. Therefore, no matter who you think you are, no matter what you think you are doing, no matter how you understand the world, or what is the meaning you make up for yourself, all the ideas, emotions and physical sensations that you experience at the present moment would form the utmost true self at the time and place.
I have used “Ming’s Mirror Method” to explore “authentic self” for six years. After six years of using the method for casework, self-balancing and family balancing, I can say that the road to “authentic self” has not been easy at all. It always makes people face the unpretentious, honest self. This “self” would sometimes appear in dreams and would sometimes be reflected through the relationship with others and events as if before a mirror. Since “authentic self” is so unpretentiously true, sometimes I would not want to face it and even want to avoid it when I come across it.
The casework that has left a deep impression on me happened on February 21, 2016. It was a Sunday morning. Conrad Ho who was doing research on YouTube, helped me do a muscle check on “inner conflict”. The “homeplay” was to go to the room of my elder son who was 16 at the time, and asked him, “Do you think mom has ever beaten you on the spiritual level?”
My son, who was doing homework on his computer, became a “mirror” of me and even the whole family after hearing what I said. He cried for more than half an hour and spilled all his discontent towards the family. What he said had good reasons. While he was crying, he said that his hand had a cramp, and was numb. He said that while Conrad’s balance was good, he sometimes ignored others’ needs, and would resort to rational explanations or try to solve the problem. My son also talked about his views towards “Ming’s Mirror Method”. He said that my “Ming’s Mirror Method” was fantastic. However, if I did not guide others to see themselves, but only saw inside others myself, this was not such a good method. At the end of the day, he said, everyone should be a mirror of themselves.
The photo shows Ho Yu Yat having a cramp in his hands when he did Ming’s Mirroring on February 21, 2016. With his consent, the story and photo are disclosed and shared.
At the start, I was only sitting on his bed to listen to him. After a while, my tears began to roll down my face. Then, he asked why his father and younger brother would only attend to their own business even though they heard him crying. He wondered why the family did not gather together and support each other at such moment. So, his father and brother entered his room upon his request to listen to and watch his “reflection”.
After crying, cramping and speaking his heart for more than half an hour, he became more relaxed. He said that he felt much better then and commented that he actually became his own mirror, reflecting everything. He even comforted us in saying that crying was the best balance for him!
Someone closest to you very often is the best mirror, allowing you to face yourself truly. Actually, seeking “authentic self” is such a process of experience, exploration and balancing.
* A post balancing note: In fact, Yu Yat told me to write down the case and share it after the balancing. However, it took me 10 months to gather sufficient power and courage to do so. I would like to present this as a 2016 year end gift to all readers. Thanks to myself! Thanks to my family! Continue to explore “authentic self”, and allow the honest self to reveal itself adequately.
