Balance on Your Life Path – Embryonic Period
by Conrad Ho on 15 August 2018, written in Hong Kong
Recently, Conrad Ho has handled a woman’s case related to discomforts during pregnancy. The process had inspired Conrad and he would like to share his learnings. He believed that more people would benefit from this balance apart from the client herself.
This woman already had a child and had decided to “retire” – no plan to have another child. Unexpectedly, at her mid-thirties, she got pregnant accidentally, at the time when her career was advancing quickly. Although the child was welcomed from the bottom of her heart, in certain dark corners, there was a trace of unwillingness. Because of the baby, the work plan that had been implementing with successes for several years had to give way. In the next few years, she would need to first nourish her body after pregnancy and second to nurture and breast-feed the baby. She would not be able to work hard for long hours, and to go abroad frequently.
In this background, the client had an outing one day. It was a 40-minute short-distance car trip on a paved road, not rugged dirt road. However, the road wound through hilly landscapes, going up and down a lot, with many bends around steep slopes. It was bouncy all the time. Before pregnancy, this kind of road would make her slightly dizzy. This time when she was pregnant, she had strong feelings to vomit and a mild chest pain. After getting off the car, she needed to sit down for 20 minutes in order to settle herself.
In the balance, when she told her story upto this point, I asked, “This child had stopped you from doing what? Which you were always doing and would love to do frequently. It might relate to your sternum in particular.” The client went back to the posture when she was uncomfortable after the car ride. She bent down, one hand in support of her cheek and another hand massaging on her chest, with closed eyes simulating feeling dizzy. An idea then flashed in my mind, and I asked, “Do you hasten your things at work and at home? Do you fight like a soldier day in and day out? So that your sternum is constantly at the forefront?” She pondered a bit, smiled and nodded her head. The theme of balance was finalized, something related to slowing down, respecting the needs of her own body and accommodating the embryo who might take things easy and do everything slower than her in the future. After the balance, she found that the pain on her chest had disappeared.
Before long, the woman came for one more balance. The trigger point was the same: dizziness in a car ride on a winding hilly road, accompanied by a feeling of vomiting and sternal pain. But this time, the situation was even worse. After getting off the car, she needed to rest her head on somebody’s shoulder and took a longer time to feel well again. I followed the direction of the last balance and asked: “Does the thought of this kind of roads make you feel uncomfortable, no matter how slightly or seriously? What the embryo, in the future, may do that will remind you of this kind of roads and make you unhappy?” After chatting for a while, the woman blurted out, “It is better to go straight to the destination. Directness feels good. Why bother to take so many turns?” I smiled and said, “The scenery might be more beautiful; the meals might be more delicious; maybe there is ample time and there is no need to hurry; even just for a refreshing change! Why efficiency is the only or number one consideration? In this world, the outcome and the process can be equally important.” The woman reflected for a while and suddenly her eyes became bright. She had made up her mind – the theme of balance was related to walking on her own life path and respecting the future life path of the embryo, no matter it was straight or winding.
I felt nothing special about these two balances at the time of doing them. However, something about them lingered on in my thoughts in the middle of the night and this had made me feel perplexed. This morning, Renate Wennekes from Germany emailed me to discuss the theme of the 2019 Greater China Kinesiology Conference to be held at Narada Resort & Spa Liangzhu, Hangzhou in March 2019: Balance on Your Life Path. We talked about child development; how family education could train up children to become adults who could progress on their own life paths in a balanced way. A pin suddenly dropped. I realized that my subconscious mind was considering the relationship between these two balances and the theme of the conference: How pre-natal education could train up children so that they would grow up and progress on their respective life paths in a balanced way.
Suppose the personality of the woman’s embryo will really be more gentle in style and slower in action; really be more creative and want to take a different path, including winding paths. On the other hand, the woman’s personality is more aggressive; laying more emphasis on results and efficiency. Also suppose the woman, without knowing how, has already subconsciously felt the contradictions in their personalities which have already caused disgust and even rejection. Therefore, on the basis of the original dizziness, the association of the winding road has triggered even stronger responses to the pregnancy. It may be from the immune system against the embryo who is actually a foreign living organism. The internal environment of the pregnant woman which is the embryo’s external environment has become a factor of imbalance in the early life path of the embryo. If the embryo’s earliest external environment has driven him into imbalance, the so-called “life imprint”, he/she will probably be more nervous, self-protecting, stumbling and falling while walking, impulsive… when the child comes to the world. Just like the research on Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma conducted by the medical school of the University of Hong Kong, one pregnant woman reported that she liked to eat salted fish and had eaten a lot of salted fish during pregnancy. Her child, after growing up, also liked eating salted fish.
The woman had now discovered during pregnancy her inclination which was potentially resistance to the child. In the same logic, if this issue had become less impactful or been solved after a balance, it would be easier for the parents to bring up the child after birth. In such a case, will the child become healthier and happier as a result? The reactions of future mothers during pregnancy can be used to deduce the feelings of the mother toward her child so that something can be done when needed. Pre-natal education helps promote the balance on the respective life paths of both the mother and the child.
