Regaining Strength of Mind

by Elaine Mair (France)

My husband died of cancer in February 2008. We were soul mates and I have found life very difficult without him. I knew this would be a very difficult milestone for me to cope with. My daughter Amanda, her husband Michael and baby Kaya live in Hong Kong, so I asked if I could come and visit for Christmas and New Year.

I was very tearful most of the time during my first few weeks here. Amanda had previous experience with kinesiology balancing so she suggested we joined a balancing gathering held by Amy in early January. I agreed. I expected very little and kept an open mind, as the title of the gathering was “Goal-setting for 2009 Amy asked everyone how 2008 had been for us and I just blurted out that 2008 had been the worst year of my life and explained about my loss. I felt sadness and was immediately very tearful. My goal for 2009 was “to be a healthy person. I then did a group balance with the rest of the class. Amanda suggested that I should go for a private balancing session with Amy, which I was very pleased to do.

I had no idea where to begin when she asked me these questions — how did I feel now? Could I imagine how I would feel and what I would do in 12 months? In 6 month? Even in 1 month, I was unable to see where I would be. With gentle conversation, I discovered that I was having great difficulty dealing with my stepdaughter who was contesting my husband’s will. I had convinced myself that she wasn’t a problem, but in fact she was the reason I couldn’t see a future for myself.
I had always been a strong person, and I felt the need to regain my strength of mind. So the goal of my balance was “to have strength of mind.”
Amy asked me which correction method I wanted to use, but I couldn’t tell her, so she asked me to think about my stepdaughter and then imagine what movement would make me feel better, she then fitted this movement into the balance. Then, she offered me a stack of Animal Cards and asked me to take one at random. I picked the Dolphin, but the picture was inverted which meant that there were some blocks in my life in relation to the messages brought to me by the Dolphin.

During the following hour, Amy and I slowly read through the Dolphin message. Then, she asked me what I had learnt from the Dolphin. I wrote down three words: “rhythm, breathing, relax. I needed to take a breath before considering my problem, as a dolphin would before diving to the depths! This combined with the movement we had practiced together which I felt would pull my usually strong core and strength back together again. I also did some Chinese qigong movements that Amy showed me and a Brain Gym® Repatterning exercise.

After the balance, I felt confident to deal with my stepdaughter and was able to look beyond her to the future. I will always cry for my lost love, but I am no longer feeling unable to deal with the practical issues of living without him. For this I thank Amy.