Life Intertwined with Death
Conrad Ho, Hong Kong, Jun. 1, 2016
Having conducted recently a quite meaningful consultation case, I would like to share it with the readers.
The client was a lady of middle age. Working as a nurse and then a psychotherapist, she had taken all sorts of spirituality and personal growth courses. She should be used to meeting with life and death face to face and in theory, she should know how to help others and herself cope with it. In reality, however, it was another story. Not because she was dumb or failed to master relevant skills. Rather, it was due to her own experience of fighting death at birth. With inborn illness, she had to undergo major surgeries in her first few months. Despite all odds, she had managed to hang on, at the price of having to bear physical and psychological traumas, and endure all sorts of secondary pains up till to date. With an undertone of such first-person experiences in life, it was already a feat of having gone so far.
At night, she had been haunted by various kinds of nightmares about death – being chased by fierce animals, encountering family members who had died, being swallowed gradually by a gigantic snake … … The fear towards death dominated her psychological space. Evading the source of fear – death – had become the theme of her life. But how tiring it was, living in such a way!
During the balance, I told her a piece of scientific fact about death: death is not just simply the death of the whole body; also, some of our cells are dying at every second, day and night. In short, one is living amidst death! Firstly, death must follow life. None can defy death (still so, at least for now). So, why waste energy on such an attempt? Secondly, life exists in death; death exists in life. Life intertwines with death, and death is good for the human body! It is not a religious or philosophical statement, but a statement of scientific fact. Would it be healthy to keep dead cells in the body as if they were alive? Would it be healthy to let aged cells die, replacing with new cells?
Besides rational advices to boost conscious learning, the client also needed some release for and activation of different parts of the body, soothing her painful areas and promoting wider movement ranges of other areas, to facilitate subconscious learning.
A day after the balance, she sent me the following message:
” I am really grateful to you, Conrad. Only up to today do I feel living out my own self. I am intrigued by the contents of some materials promoting a course on this and preceding lives that I read today. The balance yesterday really triggers new awareness about myself. Transcending life and death can actually help one live in the moment. It is important to let emotions flow through the body, rather than staying inside. Emotions can become a tool to learn. Yesterday, when I could admit that I was allowing emotions to flow through my body, I sensed even the emotion of fear began to flow. Today, I can easily sense the traces of its flow through me, making me calm, even with a little bit of joy! I therefore wrote down: ’emotions can nourish my body’. As you have said, one spends efforts or resources to have an experience, and at the same time, receives feedbacks and nourishments from it. I have to thank you, and thank myself! I will use my body to sense each and every kind of emotion, so as to link up my body with my brain! I am grateful for having encountered you in my life! Thanks!”
I believe this story will spark some inspirations in the readers.
