A Letter to All Mothers

Amy Choi, mother of two

Dear mothers,
Do you still remember the first learning experience of your child after birth? Did his eyes turn in search of yours, to identify how you looked? Or did his little mouth nibble to find your nipples, to suck his first mouthful of milk? Did you feel it was an easy experience for him, or was it difficult? A success, or a failure? And what was your reaction? Excited, or troubled? Nervous, or relaxed? No matter how, these experiences, including your reactions, have become your child’s first imprint in his learning history.

Learning is an instinct for babies. They are curious at all things. As they grow older, however, many lose connection with this natural, integrated learning state. Some turn too anxious, uninterested in learning. This may be called the “switched-off” state.

As a mother, how can we help our children stay in the “switched-on” state so that they can learn more effectively and efficiently? In my opinion, the most important is to love them. The second is to be relaxed when interacting with them. The third is to learn techniques to “switch back on” when he has switched off.

Besides, the personal experiences of the child also count. A child whose has built up successful experiences tends to look upon himself in a positive light. The reverse is also true. A child haunted by lots of failure experiences tends to have a negative self-image. If your child is still young, that is great! You still have ample time to learn to do a good job in parenting when your child is still high in adjustability. If your child has already a history of learning experiences, maybe they already have a certain way of defining themselves, e.g. “I like reading very much” or
“I am stupid”. In this case, I have two good news for you: None can change history, but one can alter his own feelings, reactions and opinions towards the past. Negative experiences may
have burnt some marks in their minds. They still can react differently to such marks, if they so choose. 2) We could not control our child. However, we can change our opinions and reactions toward the child’s “negative” behaviours. When we change, the child also changes naturally. We are an interactive system.

Last but not least, please do love and take good care of yourself. If not, you may be doing disservice to yourself. You may become too weak to give, physically as well as emotionally, in the long run. The child cannot learn self-love from you. On the other hand, loving herself nourishes the mother, which results in the strength to provide in the long run.

I promote Kinesiology because it is a wonderful tool. It helps one progress more smoothly in his learning processes, in a more balanced manner, in a higher brain integration level and in a more integrated body/mind system. My students, my family and myself have been enjoying the benefits it brings. Trust that some day, I will be able to share them with you in person, too!
Wish you happiness and wellness!

Yours sincerely,
Amy Choi 

“When we change, the child also changes naturally.  We are an interactive system.”